Why Self-Mastery?
Welcome to my newsletter. I’m excited to be launching this newsletter, along with my business, here in early 2025.
If you are reading this, you are probably being called to show up in the world in more powerful ways.
You want more meaning. You want more purpose. You want to feel more empowered and alive.
Well, I’m so glad you are doing that and sharing it with me. This is a fun and exciting chapter in my life, as I move into new ways of being in the world, mand yself. Thank you for being a part of it.
I felt called to center my coaching business and programs around the powerful path of “SELF-MASTERY.”
Now I want to share with you what this means to me, and why I believe any man can benefit from it.
One of the problems I see in the world right now is a whole new level of blaming, shaming, canceling, and projecting onto other people. These tendencies are human nature. I know and have experienced all of them.
AND, I believe there is a need to be part of a movement to shift away from blame and hatred, and onto another path.
This is the path of taking responsibility for our own lives. It is the path of learning to MASTER ourselves.
Yes, that’s right. We don’t need to focus on anyone else. We just need to learn to master ourselves.
“But THEY did this to me! But it isn’t MY FAULT! But I’m not getting WHAT I WANT from THEM!”
Yes, we all feel this way sometimes. Me too. Again, this is human nature.
AND, paradoxically, it is when we STOP trying to get something FROM the world and instead start really GETTING TO KNOW OURSELVES that real transformation, contentment and happiness is possible.
And getting to know ourselves as fully as possible IS THE PATH OF SELF-MASTERY.
That’s all mastering anything is.
- Want to play the piano well? Get to know the instrument as well as you can through experience and practice.
- Want to be good at a martial art? Learn the skills fully.
- Want to have lots of sex? Learn to master the art of sex and bring these abilities to your partner(s) for the sake of love.
- Want to be good at anything? Get to know whatever it is so well that you form an intimate relationship with it.
The more you get to know it and learn, the more masterful you become. Becoming masterful at anything leads to enjoyment, creativity, and fulfillment.
We need to be on a path of mastering OURSELVES – to understand our emotions, our sexuality, our history, our thinking, our movements, our ways of relating with others, our lineage, and many other aspects of who we are. Yes, you can master YOURSELF, just like you might master playing the guitar or training in jiu-jitsu.
Whatever it is we want to achieve in our lives, that achievement comes from MASTERING something.
The best way to be an instrument of achievement in the world is to understand and master the instrument YOU ARE.
When you spend time getting to know yourself, you find your unique gifts and talents. You connect with what is important to you. You find out where your pleasure is. You learn to be in the bliss of doing the things you love – and you learn to really love yourself as you are.
This is the path of SELF-MASTERY.
You aren’t doing anything for anyone else. You are doing it for YOU. You find your own bliss, love for yourself, pleasure, flow, and natural productivity.
Then, from that place, you share what you’ve mastered with the world. You do it because you love it and want to share it.
AND THEN, the world starts to give back.
SELF-MASTERY gets you on a path of mutual fulfillment between you and the world.
This is the only way it can work. Every other method will lead to the acquisition of shallow spoils that will eventually have you pining for something else.
Now, you may be thinking “I think I know myself just fine! I don’t need any more mastering.”
This may be the case, and if it is, I’m happy for you. Perhaps this is not the path for you.
However, most men have some part of their lives that at worst feels intolerable, and at best feels boring and not inspiring.
These are the parts of our lives that need to be examined and then mastered. AND, it can always happen! One just has to step onto the path of getting to know that part of their life, what is currently happening, and why it isn’t where they want it to be.
So ask yourself: “What part of my life is not where I want it to be?”
Is it relationships? Sexuality? Purpose and career? Whatever it is, why would you settle for anything less than to actualize your potential in that part of your life?
Remember, it is always possible. You just need to step onto the path.
This is a path that can be arduous at times, because it means really facing ourselves, our emotions, our struggles, our pasts, our shame, our imposter syndromes, and the like.
I can say that being willing to face these parts of myself for the sake of self-mastery has been the most rewarding choice of my life. It has led to levels of self-love I never thought imaginable, and also a sense of mastery and comfort in being me that I always dreamed of. It IS POSSIBLE.
Know yourself, find your unique gifts, and then learn to bring them into the world.
This is the path of SELF-MASTERY.
I want to share this path with as many men as I can. I believe it will help individual men, and it will help an unhappy world heal, even just a little bit.
I’m so happy you’ve embarked on this journey with me. Let’s grow and learn together.
Masterfully yours,
